What Changed? (Value Tussle)

Today, i had an interesting encounter in a public transport system between an elderly woman who is 82 years old and a young man in his 30's.

The bus was full with space left for a person when an elderly woman proudly dressed in her native attire worked in to occupy the seat. As she was coming in, i was thinking someone ought to help her to her seat and also offer her a much more comfortable seat because the only seat left had no backrest. As if my mind was being read, the following transpired afterwards.

Mama:( speaking to the young man seating closest to her) can't you help me? you are just looking at me.(as she sits) you should have helped me.

(At this point people started to say that the young man even ought to give up his seat for her so that she can be more comfortable).

(Eventually young man gives up his seat for mama and she kept asking why he didn't assist while she was coming in)

Young man: Mama but i just stood up for you, what else do you want?

Mama: No o, you shouldn't have. Did i tell you that i can't seat where i supposed to. I am whole and strong, don't think because i am 82 years old i am not fit.

Young man: mama! what is it? what have i done wrong?

Mama:Don't give me that tone, you are an undisciplined man, is that how you are training your kids? you shouldn't talk like that. Are you not a Nigerian (in Yoruba) i have disciplined many people like you and i won't fail to continue as i come across people like you.

(At this point a few people asked the young man to apologies and keep quiet.)

Young man: (in Yoruba) you speak Yoruba, why didn't you speak Yoruba earlier? I'm sorry ma.

Mama: Why should i speak Yoruba to you when you are dressed foreign and will respond back in plenty grama. You  don't talk to elderly people like that, don't you have old people in your household or people in your family don't live long?

David and Victoria Beckham celebrate 15 years wedding anniversary

While one man just murdered his wife in cold blood, here is a woman celebrating the realness of her man. Marriage is not without its tough seasons but Victoria and David Beckham have shown that together as one, every couple can have a happy married life.

The couple are celebrating 15 years of marriage as the former Spice Girl thanked fans for their love and support. I just love to put up stories of successful marriages.

Smitten Victoria Beckham shared an unseen picture of her wedding day with David to celebrate their anniversary.In the loved-up snap, Victoria clutches on to hubby David who is wearing his infamous white suit.

Member Of 90s R&B Group Hi Five Stabs Wife To Death

A platinum-selling R&B star calmly walked into a Texas sheriff's office to tell deputies his wife was dead and that he needed a lawyer, it's emerged. Chart-topping '90s boy band member Russell Neal - who scored success with his group "Hi-Five" - reportedly entered a Harris County station at 6:10 p.m. Wednesday. He then informed officers that his wife's lifeless body could be found inside their west Houston apartment.Cops knocked down the door to the couple's home and found Catherine Martinez killed by multiple stab wounds.

The 24-year-old fitness model and aspiring boxer, who worked under the pseudonym Brasilia Martinez, was declared dead at the scene. Neal - whose group had a Number 1 smash hit with "I Like The Way (The Kissing Game)" in 1991 - was formally taken into custody. He told detectives that the pair had gotten into an argument - before refusing to answer any further questions. Neal, who is being held in lieu of a $100,000 bond, now faces a murder charges.

Rusell pictured extreme right in group photo of Hifive

Eye-witnesses to the arrest said that the suspect appeared "docile" during the entire encounter. "He wasn't resisting arrest or fighting with them, or saying anything," said Mary Alice Valencia, who works at a nearby bond office. "When they brought him out in handcuffs, he was just as calm as can be and they just put him in a police car," she added.

Neighbors of the couple, who are believed to have two young sons together, expressed their shock at the news. "The mom, she never said too much, but you can tell she loved her kids. She kept them clean, they looked good, kept nice," said a neighbour.

Opinion on Why Many Ladies Remain Single

All the single ladies...all the single ladies. I am not Beyonce getting you to groove on the dance floor or catching the bouquet at the wedding of your friends. But if only you will dance to the information you will read below, it will help your life in many ways. Please take your time to read and note which point pertains to you.

1. Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure- 

It is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell, what else will dominate this lady's mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?

2. Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores-

This is because they have been brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that's aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?

Reasons Not To Compare Your Kids With Others

There are so many reasons not to compare your child to others. Whether it's to a sibling or the child of a friend, subjecting your child to comparisons damages their self-esteem and makes them feel inadequate. Yet many parents feel it somehow reflects on their child or themselves if their child isn't as 'good' as others. Here are some important reasons not to compare your child to others …

1. AFFECTS THEIR SELF-ESTEEM
One of the really important reasons not to compare your child to others is that it hits their self-esteem hard. How would you like to be constantly compared to others? Low self-esteem issues usually have their root in childhood, so don't make your child feel that they're inferior to others. You don't want them getting conceited, but nor do you want them feeling worthless.

2. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT
Each child is an individual, and has their own talents and interests. Why does it matter if one child is musical and another isn't? The non-musical child may be good at sports or love reading. One thing is not better than another, and neither is one child better than another. Let them develop their own interests and abilities. They should not feel that they have to be more like a sibling or your friend's child.

How To Help A Child With Low Grade In School

Now most schools are rounding off their academic session and teachers are busy working on report cards. Your child’s report card may not meet your expectations. You know your child is capable of more, he/she may be intelligent but the grade doesn’t correspond with your perception of him/her. In this case, it’s tempting to blow a gasket, withhold privileges, and expect more from your child, especially when you know some of his/her peers who performed excellently.

Don’t take it too far, you need to be softer; more strategic approach may yield better results. First, you need to understand why your child’s report card isn’t studded with A’s. Then you can work out a plan with your child to get back on track. To do this, you need to talk to your child and your child’s teacher. And you might need to take a look at yourself, making sure you are setting realistic expectations.

Talk With Your Child
When things go wrong, the first person to talk with is your child because he/she is directly involved in the situation. You need to let him or her feel that you can trust his/her opinion about reasons for the poor grades. When you talk with your child about his/her report card, see if your child has a realistic view of the situation. For example, your child may think he/she occasionally fails to turn in a homework assignment. But his teacher’s grade book might reveal a consistent pattern of neglecting his work. Your child may also feel that s/he needs assistance with home work and reinforcement of what was taught at school.

Also, your child may think that s/he understands Mathematics because she has always been strong in that subject. But as Maths becomes increasingly abstract, some kids struggle. Your teacher can help you and your child face reality if necessary.

Often, lower-than-expected grades reflect a more challenging curriculum. Science can get difficult for some kids when memorization and lab work are involved. Languages become tougher when teachers start expecting students to infer from their text and delve deeper into topics in their writing. When the curriculum gets harder, your child will need to work harder just to maintain his/her grades. This can be a hard fact to face. The good news is that as some subjects get harder for your child, other subjects may get easier as his/her academic strengths emerge.

It’s also possible that your child has an especially hard teacher. If your child’s teacher is tough but fair, try to see it as a blessing even if it means a lower grade. Kids often learn more from tough teachers and tend to look back on them fondly.

Talk With the Teacher
As a parent, you need to investigate any grade lower than a B. If the report card does not detail the reasons for the lower grade, ask the teacher. Does your child not understand the concepts? Or is s/he not turning in homework? Did s/he barely miss the cut-off for a higher grade? Or does the grade represent a higher mark than what s/he earned? (Some teachers are generous; also some school proprietors in Nigeria make it compulsory for their teachers to increase the grades of some students unnecessarily).

One of the hardest things to hear is that your child seems to be trying his/her best but is still just getting average grades. Parents should keep in mind that a stretch of average academic performance does not mean their child will always perform at that level or that s/he will be limited in life. A good teacher will help parents understand the reasons their child earned certain grades so parents can respond appropriately.

Talk to Yourself
Before stressing out over an inconsistent report card, consider whether the grades reflect your child’s strengths. If your child gets A’s and B’s in most subjects and a C in one subject, it might not be a big deal, as long as your child is making progress.